You know when you’re walking down the street and someone glances at you, and they smile, but you tell yourself you have something on your face. There’s nothing on your face.
There’s nothing on your head. Your hair isn’t messy. Your make-up is fine. But it’s that stupid little voice in the back of your head telling you that they were smiling because you look funny. Not because they were being nice.
Don’t you hate that little voice? Constantly in the back of your mind, telling you you’re not good enough.
Why Does This Happen? Why IS the Voice Always Negative?
Well, here’s the thing. Your subconscious’ job is to keep you safe. And so, it will do anything it can to shield you from danger. It is always trying to keep you safe and telling you to not take any risks.
But, you see, it’s that little voice keeping you from stepping into your greatness. Keeping you from being the very best version of yourself.
And What If That Little Voice is Taking Over Your Life?
What if that little voice is the only thing stopping you from doing what you want to do? What you need to do? Which is, of course, being great. Your little voice is restricting your life, but it doesn’t have to be like that. If you put your thoughts into another perspective, you can get past that little voice.
How Do You Change IT?
So, imagine yourself from the outsider’s view. For example, imagine you’re sitting in a restaurant, enjoying your time out with friends or family. You don’t notice someone walking in on the other side of the room.
You don’t know who they are, who they’re with, what they’re talking about. You don’t care. It’s not of your business. You don’t even bat an eyelid.
Now imagine you are the one walking in and people are already sitting there enjoying themselves. Why do you think they’re watching you? Why do you think they are judging you – mentally commenting on your hair, your outfit, how fat or thin you are?
It’s that stupid little voice. Again. It’s trying to protect you.
It may not feel like it’s protecting you but that’s what it’s trying to do. It is trying to see “all the potential threats” so that you are aware of them and can take evasive action. Even though no evasive action is required because there actually ARE no threats.
And that’s okay, we just have to acknowledge that it is trying to protect you. If you try and ignore it then you’ll never be able to accept yourself. Because you still hear it, you still believe it deep down.
You Have to Help the Little Voice – Not Ignore It
Think of that voice like a colleague you’re not the biggest fan of, but you know they’re good at their job, and you know you have to work together regardless of your feelings. Turns out you work well together when you listen to each other. That’s how you have to be with yourself.
You have to listen to that voice with a healthy dose of skepticism. What do I mean by that?
I want you to question what your little voice is saying – every time it is negative. For example – you look in the mirror and the voice says “you look awful” – rather than agreeing – ask yourself whether that is useful. Clearly – if you have mascara on your face then it is useful. Otherwise, just thank the voice for its opinion and get on that zoom call anyway.
Don’t let it stop you from being your best self, but don’t ignore it. You don’t have to rush into anything decisions and your voice is telling you to be cautious. It’s not supposed to restrict you, it’s supposed to help you. So, question it and make a decision.
The moral of the story is you were born to shine.
You can do this. Voice or no voice, you’ve got this. You can be the best version of yourself, and you can live your life to the fullest. You may make mistakes because you’re ignoring your inner voice telling you not to do something, but that is life. Mistakes are a learning process. If you don’t make any mistakes you are living too safe.
Nothing should stop you from being the amazing unique human being you were born to be, and certainly not your own little voice. If you want something, go get it, Tigger!